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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #4 Be Bold

Be Bold

Fighting the Urge to Fade Into the Background When you’ve been through some really hard shit, it’s really really easy to want to put on some camouflage and fade into the background. And by all means, if you are still in survival mode, allow yourself that time. I needed it. A lot of it. I…

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #3 Make New Friends

Melissa and Emily

When You Leave Your Old Life Behind When you go through a trauma, it creates a rift in your life. For me anyway, there is the life I had before the fire and my son being born, and there is the life I have after. It’s not even like two different chapters, it’s like two…

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Raku: The Japanese Pottery Style that Speaks Volumes

Raku pottery

How We Are Like Pottery You don’t have to literally survive a fire or be a super deep thinker to get it. It’s not really a big stretch. Pottery is fragile until it’s been fired. Clay is carefully sculpted with an attentive touch and only holds its shape when it’s put in a kiln at…

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Be Alive, Don’t Just Survive

Quiet Lightning

Inspiration can come from anywhere I recently attended Quiet Lightning’s event Sparkle & Blink 98, a curated submission-based reading of writers and poets in San Francisco. I haven’t been to a reading event in a while, so this was a really great event to attend. I got to meet other writers and get inspired on…

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #2 Accept You’re a Victim

Nothing left

Bad Things Happen Most of the time there’s nothing we can do about it. When my entire neighborhood was lost in the 2017 Northern California Wildfires, no one saw it coming. I don’t live in the middle of the forest. I’m in a residential neighborhood. That shit just doesn’t happen! I just so happened to…

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #1 Learn to Say Yes

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Amazon Fresh donation from family friends Swallowing Pride I’ve never been good at accepting help. Call it pride, call it stubbornness, but it’s one of my biggest faults. In college, I literally failed courses because I thought that going to my professor to tell him or her that I was struggling meant that I was…

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Sometimes I want to punch Marie Kondo in the face

Tidying Up

Tidy This When you’ve lost everything in a fire, you kind of want to punch Marie Kondo in the face. Going through your personal belongings and only keeping what sparks joy? How about when you have to go to Safeway to buy a pair of leggings just so you can have something to wear other…

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Motherhood, PTSD, and the Loss of Optimism

Strength and perseverance has always come easy to me. I’ve always been a ‘glass half full’ kind of person. To be fair, I haven’t had the hardest life, but I can usually find a very clear path forward whenever the universe decides to make things interesting. The universe lately has had one sick sense of…

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The Hunt for Sweeny Observatory at Strawberry Hill

One of the things I love most about writing historical fiction is exploring the areas that I’m writing about. It’s fun to go to a place in a scene I’m writing and imagine what it must have been like during the period of my story. With historical fiction, I try to be as true to…

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Top 5 Things I Learned at the San Francisco Writers Conference

San Francisco Writers Conference

Last week I attended my first ever writers conference, the 2018 San Francisco Writers Conference. I went into it being pretty sure I wanted to make writing my new career. The experience affirmed this decision and then some. Deciding to be a writer, if you’ve ever been there or imagined what it would be like, is…

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